Success, importance of Authenticity in the process

Success, Importance of Authenticity in the Process

Success is a process where achievement of an action within a specified period of time or within a specified parameter. 
Success can also mean completing an objective or reaching a goal. 
Success can be expanded to encompass an entire project or be restricted to a single component of a project or task. It can be achieved within the workplace, or in an individual's personal life. 

Success in life is very important not only to survive & go through the path of hardness but also the only criteria through where you can get confidence to work. Ya, in the process you may see too much ups -downs but only through the self belief you can come out from the situation & for that only one thing that has requires is that AUTHENTICITY.

Reasons why we Authenticity Matters

1. We Live In A World Of Openness and Sharing

2. People Are Watching You All The Time.

3. Bad Things Happen When You’re Not Being Authentic.

If what you are doing is authentic definitely time will come that gift you & bring you the optimum happiness, which you have been waiting. So always try to be authentic wherever you work or whatever you do in you life  because authenticity will brings you the loyalty to love whatever you do in you day to day life.

Authenticity or being true to yourself is sometimes difficult. We are often do the things that thinks by others or for others which we need approval. To fit in.being true to yourself, or, not having your behaviour a reflection of our values, beliefs and desires can create a dimming of consciousness or your true self. If trying to please others is your GOAL you can never be yourself. However, it creates a degree of unconscious anxiety when we behave in ways that our dissonant to our true attitudes.

Generally most of us know what is better for ourselves but we don't have the courage to face the reality that people may not approve of us or actions all of the time.However, in any real relationship a withholding of approval does not mean that we aren’t liked anymore. If anything, when we are strong enough to be authentic, others often respect us more. 

Different studies also reveals that we will like ourselves more when we are authentic & also help to boost our self-esteem when we act in line with our values, and, conversely suffers the most when we behave in ways that don’t reflect them. We are more satisfied with our lives & enjoy our life more. We come across as being genuine. We are consistent in our actions. 

Definitely these things will increase our moral value to do our day to day job( whatever it may be) & these behaviour will help ourselves to reach the pick our GOAL & help us to be successful in our respected life.

Shakespeare said “To thine own self be true, and you cannot be false to any other man”. Integrity is a sense of being unified and whole, but first, we must not only know ourselves, but we must be ourselves. 

Refferences

http://www.businessdictionary.com

The Importance of Authenticity by Jussiecatwriter http://www.selfavenue.com

http://michaelhudson.com/

Hypnotism, its importance

Hypnotism

Hypnosis or hypnotherapy, is a method of inducing a trance or a dream like state of deep relaxation to treat disorders of a mainly psychological or emotional origin.

It has been practised for thousands of years by many cultures

Hypnosis is a state of human consciousness involving focused attention and reduced peripheral awareness and an enhanced capacity to respond to suggestion. It also refer to an art, skill, or act of inducing hypnosis.

Hypnosis is a state of consciousness that differs from normal experience of reality. The hypnotic state is one in which your mind becomes acutely open to suggestion. This is why hypnotherapy is commonly employed to relieve unwanted habits and compulsive behaviours

Disorders helped by hypnosis Hypnosis can help you change attitudes, perceptions and behaviours.

It can be effective in treating a range of medical and psychological issues, like:

•  Anxiety 
•  Asthma 
•  Chronic pain Fears and phobias 
•  Smoking
•  High blood pressure 
•  Fatigues
•  Insomnia 
•  Panic attacks
•  Stress 
•  Migraine
•  Obesity
•  Thumb sucking
•  Sleep problems
•  Sexual problems
•  Stuttering

If a person is in a hypnotic state will decrease in involuntary eye movement to the point where deeply hypnotised people will have to be reminded to blink. Generally an observer has got the impression that the hypnotised aren't paying attention but in reality they're playing hyper-attention. As compared to a resting brain, many areas come online when a person is put into a hypnotic trance. All the areas that flare to life during hypnosis are also engaged when a person is concentrating on mental imagery — except one. Like many areas of the brain, the precuneus lights up during many different tasks, all of them having to do with a consciousness of self. It also deals with visuospatial aspects of the brain, letting us know where we are in space.when hypnotised, people are able to concentrate intensely on self-created imagery (or imagery that suggested to them) but do not place their selves as part of that imagery. They've lost the reminder of what they personally do and what normal judgements they make, while increasing their ability to think about a whole range of imaginary situations.

Hypnotic state 

The brain has different levels of consciousness, or awareness, ranging from fully alert to drowsy to  fully asleep, with variations in between. Hypnotic states occur naturally and spontaneously. Everyday examples include: Daydreaming Being absorbed in a pleasant task and losing track of time

Doing a mundane task (such as washing the dishes) while thinking about something else, to the  degree that you can’t actually remember performing the task Getting lulled into a dreamy state by boredom, for example, when listening to a dull speech. 

Power of Hypnotism

1. Through hypnotism people can have the ability to perform the ability to remember details of past events that person has consciously forgotten.

2. It also help to suppress of pain to sense that people might feel less self conscious because by this their brain that feels self-consciousness offline and their perception might be altered by the part of the brain that governs perception altered by the part of the brain that governs perception, but pain is different. One of the primary functions of pain is to force someone out of the reverie they're in and make them pay attention to reality. Pain is the outside world breaking in.

3. Hypnosis does have the power to tap into memory in ways that other techniques do not. Most importantly, it has the ability to induce temporary, reversible amnesia.

4. Heightened Suggestibility, After the hypnotism the first few minutes after the process he will typically remain in a heightened state of suggestibility. After this process the operator avoid either stating or implying any idea that may work against the others goals and an experienced hypnotist will often use these moments to deliver positive suggestions about success and self-esteem.The subject will then often take these thoughts forward, into the days and weeks and months that follow.

5. Bond, by hypnosis one in which longstanding emotional blocks can be dissolved & subjects feel an emotional closeness to the operator.

6. Ab-reaction & Negative transference

An ab-reaction is an intense emotional outburst of some traumatic circumstance from the past & on in that time it is important that the hypnotherapist should remain calm & help to reorient the person through suggestion.

Reference
1. What hypnosis Really Does to your brain by Esther Inglis-Arkell 03/08/12
2. Hypnosis Side effects by Harold E Sconiers 14/08/17
3. Encyclopedia of Mental diseases

Feelings & it's Role 

The greatest and most important meters that we have in our lives is how we feel for certain conditions as we faced day to day.Though feelings provide us with a great deal of incredibly useful information on how to proceed moment to moment in life but it also gives an idea how to go with situations if we use it in positive way. Feelings are meant to be felt, processed, and then moved on from it. Feelings are not facts, and feelings certainly do not define who you are.

Often times, when faced with uncomfortable feelings, we tend to ignore them, push them aside, or even worse bottle them up, with the hope that they might dissolve over time. When we don’t let ourselves feel the feelings, and instead we push them down to fester without expressing them, we begin to take them on as facts. We start to believe them to be real and to be part of our identities. You can see how, what starts as a seemingly ordinary feeling, can lead to some serious questions of identity, if it’s not addressed!

  

The tough aspect about actually feeling feelings is that sometimes, we can get stuck in one. Often times it can be a dark or difficult one. How amazing is it that feelings don’t really have to linger, if we deal with them in a conscious way.

Always in every aspect we have to discuss with yourself in a positive way & find a way to get rid from it.

You should know about the source of the feeling & impact of that specific source in your life, is it positive or how it may change you.

In the mid time you should also think about the reality and facts of the matter, is it coming to you consciously or unconsciously & is it hit you regularly.

Repeat all the process continuously for few days & find the solution for that specific feeling.

 

References

1. https://peacefulmindpeacefullife.org/why-feelings-are-important/

2.https://my.happify.com/hd/how-our-feelings-can-play-a-major-role-in-even-the-most-logical-situations/

3.www.healthythoughts.in

4. www.geniusquotes.com

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ANGER MANAGEMENT

What is ANGER?

As per the dictionary

Noun

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• .A strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostilitysynonyms:rage, vexation, exasperation, displeasureantonyms:pleasure, good humor
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    fill (someone) with anger; provoke anger insynonyms:infuriate, irritate exasperate, irkantonyms:pacify, placate

  Vulnerability (shame, anxiety, disappointment, sorrow) + Blame = Anger

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  • Anger - how it affects people?

    Anger is a powerful emotion. If it isn’t handled appropriately, it may have destructive results for you and those closest to you. Uncontrolled anger can lead to arguments, physical fights, physical abuse, assault and self-harm. On the other hand, well-managed anger can be a useful emotion that motivates you to make positive changes.
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  • The long-term physical effects of uncontrolled anger include increased anxiety, high blood pressure and headache.
  • Anger is a positive and useful emotion, if it is expressed appropriately.
  • Causes of Anger

1. Emotional states could indicate that you are failing to deal with anger in a positive and healthy fashion. Constant irritability, rage and anxiety are possible emotional symptoms.
2. Physical changes to the body, and anger is no exception. Letting anger issues go unaddressed can put your overall health at risk.
3. Short-Term and Long-Term Effects of Anxiety

• • Why is anger something you need to control but not crush?

    The emotion of anger is neither good nor bad. Like any emotion, it’s conveying a message, telling you that a situation is upsetting, or unjust, or threatening. If your kneejerk reaction to anger is to explode, however, that message never has a chance to be conveyed. So, while it’s perfectly normal to feel angry when you’ve been mistreated or wronged, anger becomes a problem when you express it in a way that harms yourself or others.
    If you have a hot temper, you may feel like it’s out of your hands and there’s little you can do to tame the beast. But you have more control over your anger than you think. You can learn to express your emotions without hurting others.

  • Physical effects of anger

  • Anger triggers the body’s ‘fight or flight’ response. Other emotions that trigger this response include fear, excitement and anxiety. The adrenal glands flood the body with stress hormones, such as adrenaline and cortisol.
    
    The brain shunts blood away from the gut and towards the muscles, in preparation for physical exertion. Heart rate, blood pressure and respiration increase, the body temperature rises and the skin perspires. The mind is sharpened and focused.
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  • Health problems with anger

    
    
    The constant flood of stress chemicals and associated metabolic changes that go with recurrent unmanaged anger can eventually cause harm to many different systems of the body.
    
    
    Some of the short and long-term health problems that have been linked to unmanaged anger include:
    • headache
    • digestion problems, such as abdominal pain
    • insomnia
    • increased anxiety
    • depression
    • high blood pressure
    • skin problems, such as eczema
    • heart attack
    • stroke
    10 anger management tips

  • 1. Think before you speak

    In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.

    2. Once you're calm, express your anger

    As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.

    3. Get some exercise

    Physical activity can help reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.

    4. Take a timeout

    Timeouts aren't just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what's ahead without getting irritated or angry.

    5. Identify possible solutions

    Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child's messy room drive you crazy? Close the door. Is your partner late for dinner every night? Schedule meals later in the evening — or agree to eat on your own a few times a week. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse. 

  • 6. Stick with 'I' statements

    To avoid criticizing or placing blame — which might only increase tension — use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, "I'm upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes" instead of "You never do any housework."

    7. Don't hold a grudge

    Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation and strengthen your relationship.

    8. Use humor to release tension

    Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Use humor to help you face what's making you angry and, possibly, any unrealistic expectations you have for how things should go. Avoid sarcasm, though — it can hurt feelings and make things worse.

    9. Practice relaxation skills

    When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as "Take it easy." You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses — whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.

    10. Know when to seek help

    Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. Seek help for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you.
  • 11. Focus on the physical sensations of anger. 
  • While it may seem counterintuitive, tuning into the way your body feels when you're angry often lessens the emotional intensity of your anger
  • 12. Avoid people, places, and situations that bring out your worst
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  • 13. Stretch or massage areas of tension
    Roll your shoulders if you are tensing them, for example, or gently massage your neck and scalp
  • 14. Slowly count to ten.
  • .Focus on the counting to let your rational mind catch up with your feelings. If you still feel out of control by the time you reach ten, start counting again.
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  • References.
  • 1. Betterhealth channel
  • 2. Psychology Today, 12 Oct 2009
  • 3. PsychGuide.com
  • 4. Mayo Clinic.
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Time management Vs Focus Management

Time Management Vs Focus management

People often complain about lack of time when the lack of direction is the real problem

 by Zig Ziglar

Time Management

Time management is the ability to plan your time productively and manage your assigned tasks in an effective and efficient manner.

Effective time management strategies support efforts in scheduling your time, prioritizing your responsibilities, planning and accomplishing goals, and working toward project or assignment deadlines.

Poor time management can produce problems with procrastination, over-extending yourself, and self-control. Time management is directly related to project management.

Good time management is necessary for successful project planning and scheduling.

Focus Management

Focus is a central point, as of attraction, attention or activity.

Focus management is about being able to focus on the task at hand and keep distractions at bay.

Focus management is the idea of examining the amount of attention given to certain tasks and distractions.

The purpose of focus management is to help individuals stay focused on the essential tasks while attempting to avoid distractions in order to increase their efficiency.

Some believe there is no way to manage time,but can manage where attention to be focused within a particular set time frame.

One of the key battlegrounds in the future knowledge war will be the management of focus, understanding how it is allocated by individuals and organizations, knowing how to capture it more effectively for important information and knowledge, using technology to get, keep and protect it.

Distractions around in today’s fast-paced work environment, enveloped in technology

Few of those distractions as we are up against each day.

·        1. Phone and computer notifications, research, email and socializing.

2.The two P’s of social media: Posting and Perusing.

3. Chasing squirrels and shiny objects that sound interesting or more fun than what we’re currently working on.

Researchers say the stimulation that we get from constantly checking our devices create an addiction with a squirt of dopamine. There may be something interesting to see with every click. So, we check our email and texts and they are stimulating. We check our social media likes, hearts and comments and they are stimulating. Without all this stimuli, we can actually start to feel bored.

There was a study by Silverpop that said we have eight seconds to capture someone’s attention online before they move onto the next thing. Consider how quickly we scroll through photos and videos on Instagram and Facebook and we get just a quick peek of photos and videos on Snapchat. We are getting used to sending and receiving information very quickly.

 Stanford University researchers Ophir, Nass and Wagner reported as early as 2009 that they considered “processing multiple incoming streams of information is considered a challenge for human cognition” (Cognitive control in media multitaskers; 2009).

Their tests showed that mega-multitaskers, rather than performing better, actually had a more difficult time focusing on individual tasks and were more vulnerable to environmental distractions.

How to overcome?

1.      Acknowledgement.

 There will always be more information available then you have time for. The information on the internet is endless and sometimes we just have to put a cap on how much time we invest in research. For example.

2.      Clearcut Goal

Be very clear with goals. Know exactly what you want and how you’re going to get what you want before you do the work that it takes to reach your goals. Once you are clear, it will help you put your focus in the correct places.

3.      Evaluate each activity or request on your time and energy to decide whether or not it helps your goals or hurts your goals and your focus.

4.      Say no to activities and requests that take you away from your goals. No more guilt over this one, we all need to get past the guilt.  

5.      Retrain yourself to be okay with downtime and less stimulation instead of being on all the time. Find relaxing activities you enjoy such as listening to music, dancing, soaking in a bubble bath, meditation, coloring or practicing yoga. You can even just sit quietly.

6.      Eliminate distractions while you’re working on critical tasks. Critical tasks are activities that help you reach your goals, increase your income, have a deadline or have a financial consequence associated with it.

7.      Decrease content in your life by evaluating what you can let go. It may be like a group on social media, newsletters, junk mail, magazine subscriptions, newspaper subscriptions or activities. 

8. Plan your first three hours carefully because you are at your productivity peak

References

Time Management vs Attention Management, Student Success Guide, at Excelsior CollegeTime

Management or Focus Management? Posted on 12 Dec 2012, Crystal

Productivity & Time Management, 14 Aug 2017, Monika Krisstofferson

Photos has been uploaded from Google Focus related images

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TIME MANAGEMENT

EFFECTIVE TIME MANAGEMENT

What Is Time Management?

Time management is the process of planning and exercising conscious control over the amount of time spent on specific activities - especially to increase effectiveness, efficiency or productivity. It is a juggling act of various demands of study, social life, employment, family, and personal interests and commitments with the finiteness of time. Using time effectively gives the person "choice" on spending/ managing activities at their own time and expediency.

Time management is the process of organizing and planning how to divide your time between specific activities. Good time management enables you to work smarter – not harder – so that you get more done in less time, even when time is tight and pressures are high. Failing to manage your time damages your effectiveness and causes stress. 

TYPES OF TIME

Fast Time: When absorbed in or enjoying an activity.

Slow Time: When bored in an activity or having a bad time.

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OVER & UNDER ESTIMATING TIME

Time for tasks & activity can be over or underestimate due to

-Intensity of the activity

-Level of brain function

-Length of gap between enjoyment

-Fear

Effect of Estimating Time Incorrectly

Under Estimation of Time

-Stress due to committing to many tasks

-Poor quality output

-Deadline may be missed

Over estimation of Time

-Stress due to people pressing to have activities completed

-Poor quality output

-Deadline set may not match requirement

WHY DO WE NEED TO MANAGE TIME?

Greater productivity and efficiency.

A better professional reputation.

Less stress.

Increased opportunities for advancement.

Greater opportunities to achieve important life and career goals.

HOW TO USE TIME EFFECTIVELY?

Effective Planning

Setting Goals & Objectives

Setting Deadlines

Delegation of responsibilities

Prioritizing Activities as per their Importances

Spending Right time on Right Activities

GOOD TIME MANAGEMENT

Tidying up our time can improve both self-esteem and motivation. We will also find it easier to stay on top of things if your work space is tidy.

Pick Your Moment, Everybody has time of the day to work better. It is better to schedule difficult task on that time

Don't Procrastinate, But always ask why you are tempted. If a task is genuinely urgent than only go with that work.

Schedule Tasks,Carry a planner or notebook with you and list all the tasks that come to your mind. Make a simple ‘To Do’ list before the start of the day, prioritize the tasks, and make sure that they are attainable. To better manage your time management skills, you may think of making 3 lists: work, home, and personal.

Avoid Multitasking, Most of us feel that multitasking is an efficient way of getting things done but the truth is that we do better when we focus and concentrate on one thing. Multitasking hampers productivity and should be avoided to improve time management skills.

Stay Calm and Keep Things In Perspective,Perhaps the most important thing to remember is to stay calm & should remember that the world will probably not end if you fail to achieve your last task of the day, or leave it until tomorrow, especially if you have prioritized sensibly

Start Early,Most of the successful men and women have one thing in common. They start their day early as it gives them time to sit, think, and plan their day. When you get up early, you are more calm, creative, and clear-headed. As the day progresses, your energy levels starts going down which affects your productivity and you don’t perform as well.

 Deadlines Set Up, When you have a task at hand, set a realistic deadline and stick to it.

Take Breaks, Whenever you find yourself for 10-15 minutes, take a break. Too much stress can take toll on your body and affect your productivity.

Learn to say No,Politely refuse to accept additional tasks if you think that you’re already 

overloaded with work. Take a look at your ‘To Do’ list before agreeing to take on extra work.

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COASTING OF YOUR TIME 

 Coast /Year= Salary+Tax+Office Space+Office Equipment+Maintenance+Profit Generate

Calculate Your Hourly Rate: Work per Year/Working Hours per Year

References

Time Management Skill, Skillsyouneed.com, 2014

10 ways to improve time management skill by Rinkesh Kukreja, lifehack